You remember
You're scared you already passed it on — that your daughters absorbed your food commentary before you knew it was poison.
You're still dieting but calling it "clean eating" or "intuitive eating" or "being mindful." The language changed. The behavior didn't.
The rage you feel when you see a 90s diet ad feels disproportionate. It isn't.
81% of 10-year-olds were afraid of being fat. Not the dark. Not spiders. Fat.
Acknowledging the damage means confronting your mother's fridge magnet, her language, her body — and the fact that she was a victim too.